Coming out of the closet, plainly ,what else do we think of it other than homosexuality? I recently watched an American movie named Love,Simon which made me ruminate, and it just occurred to me that why we make the “coming out” of the homos such a big deal? Aren’t we all living in a nasty,malodorous little closet? It wouldn’t be difficult for you to understand if u( like me )were brought up in a typical Indian society under the scrutiny of inquisitorial ,snoopy neighbors and loving but overbearing parents. Not to generalize, or stereotype for that matter but when ,speaking for myself I am indeed living in a closet. I was born and brought up in a small town of an Indian state ;heterosexual in orientation(I thought this was necessary in the context of my post). Currently I’m living in a closet contrived by my parents who in turn appropriated the dexterity from the society. In this closet im hiding my sexual orientation-heterosexuality, my susceptibility to be attracted to my opposite sex and also sequestered are my propensity to give in to the attraction and fall in love and I’m a 24 year old woman. My parents never dated and had an arranged marriage so customarily they don’t expect me to fall in love either. They have taken up on themselves to find the Mr.Right for me. While they do that I’m expected to make myself “worthy”( which comprises of staying a virgin, knowing the domestic chores or say be proficient at it ,good education and sometimes a qualified job, the last one isn’t necessary and may be nonobligatory)enough for that individual.
I on the other hand ,succumbing to the gravity, fell for someone, and have been dating him since the last four and half years and naturally want to tie knots with him but the thing is how do I come out to my parents about my being straight? So this is the closet I have been living in.
Like me, there are many women (or men for that matter)out there who have contradistinctive situations and live in confines of a closet, for fear and shame of society, their parents, friends etc they are skeptical to come out; come out n break free of the inhibitions that refrains them/ holds them back from reaching to something they suspire ; small or big. Some of them may not be a facile ‘calling’ but wouldn’t it be worth maneuvering for?
We are all living in incongruously fashioned closets ..
P.S. Since English isn’t my mother tongue I may have missed out few things I wanted to convey.